Obviously you’ve given your fair share to charity. You’ve bought all your family members cars and cribs. You donated heavily to The Haute Spot for giving you hours of entertainment. In other words, you’ve taken care of your priorities. So now it’s time to treat yourself. Now it’s time to take care of numero uno.

Sure you can go out and buy a Ferrari. Sure you can go out and get yourself a new watch. Sure you can finally take that trip to Italy you’ve always wanted. But nothing says “I F**Kin Made It” quite like a Miami mansion that even Tony Montana himself would be jealous of.

We just went from 6 to 12

Nestled in the heart of Coral Gables (Miami’s Jungle of Luxury) lies an estate begging for scantily clad models partying in the pool, expensive german, italian, and swedish engineeringparked out front, and a boat (see: yacht) parked in the back that would make T-Payne drop his auto-tuner.

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Gentlemen we would like to introduce to you- The Nebuchadnezzar (That’s not what’s it called, but that’s what we would call it). But with 8 bedrooms, 12 bathrooms, two floors, a bar, 20,000 of sq feet, a basketball court, game room, 6 car garage, unrestricted ocean access, and 3 of the best acres of land money can buy- you can call it Eden for all we care.

Who needs a vacation, when this is your backyard

Yeah, just because.

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A kitchen this grand, deserves hiring a chef

A fireplace? In Miami? Sure, why not.

Never mind the ocean views

I've seen a room like this before. Yeah. It was in Versailles. It was Napoleon's. You might have heard of him

Really? Is that all really necessary?

Hotel Lobby? No just my hallway.

Your sports cove/pool room isn't complete without some African War Memorabilia.

Ok so our friends at Hummingbird Financial ran some numbers and assuming that even if you put the standard 20% down ($10 Million!), and had a perfect credit score (you better), you still would need to pay a heart-wrenching $221,630 a month! For 30 years!

Here’s to dreaming:

You better invite us over for tea

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No

Just because you’re wearing jeans and blazer does not mean you look good. If it looks like you borrowed your dad’s jacket, and are still wearing the same jeans you wore in high school then it’s time you change the way you shop. If you haven’t already followed our advice make sure everything you wear is slimmer and form-flattering.

If nothing is form flattering for you– then you’re probably fat-lose weight.

When you wear a button-down and blazer you need to get a shirt that fits well. Only a sliver of shirt cuff should show near your wrists. This means the shirt must fit you slim as well. No more bunching at the waist. That gives you the appearance of love handles even if you have a 6-pack.

Lose the baggy shirts Soulja Boi

Also square-toe shoes are never in fashion. They are the PT Cruisers of the fashion world. Never cool, but their owners are oblivious.

Next, the blazer. Make sure blazers hug your shoulders, and get a tailor to take it in at the waist and arms.

Jeans that are meant to go out should be dark. Hell, all your jeans should be dark. Opt for a dark navy with no crazy designs. We like Rock and Republic for their simple elegance and the lack of a douche bag stigma associated with True Religion. Make sure they fit you like your khakis do. Snug but not 80′s metal tight. If I can count the coins in your pocket- use them to call a tailor.

Spring for a nice pair- even if they’re $200 bucks. If you wear them 50 times over the next four years, they’ll be cheaper than that $60 dollar shirt sitting in your closet for that past five. Remember fashion rule number seven.

You follow this simple advice, you’ll walk on water next time you go out.

Unshakably Confident

Save the jumping for Kobe though.

Blazer, $2,025, and jeans, $450, by Dolce & Gabbana. Shirt, $168, by Steven Alan. Shoes, $820, by Church’s.

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Here at BravadoLiving, we will explain the difference between parties that flourish, and those that flop. More importantly we will show you the way to stay in the former camp and develop a reputation for throwing the best parties known to man.

Crowd surfing: A good indicator that your party is a success

1.) Location

The number one rule in real estate applies to parties as well. Parking must be plentiful. Make sure that it’s not too far from your guests or they may be discouraged by the long drive. And if they do come, they may not drink for fear of driving under the influence.

Visit your neighbors.

Inform them that you are having a party for a special occasion. Give them your cell phone number and tell them to call you personally incase the party gets too loud – you can even extend a friendly invitation. This insures no one calls the cops and gets your party shut down.

Make sure you have plenty of room for a dance floor. Don’t leave anything valuable in a public place that can be broken or stolen.

2.) Reason and Theme

Now we’re not suggesting that you need a reason to throw a party, but it helps with the planning if you have one. A reason helps you to determine a theme (which we find to be crucial for any legendary party). The theme doesn’t need to be as exaggerated as a 70′s party, but even simple colors can help bring cohesion to an otherwise unorganized mess.Themes will turn a random house party something your guests talk about tomorrow, to a party they text about tonight.

"Get over here now! This party is awesome!

Sometimes finding a theme will be easy like Halloween or New Years (the most overrated night of partying of all time), or it may be a little more obscure- a surprise party for a friend.

If you don’t have a reason for throwing the party then feel free to pick from any one of the themes below:

1.) Any combination of colors (black, white, red, black and white, back and gold, black and silver, white and red, etc.)

These parties are great and usually very classy. Let guests know the dress code early and make it mandatory- even going as far as stating you will not be admitted if you are not dressed in theme. There’s nothing like having that one asshole who decided to wear a purple graphic shirt to your white party.

A Beach White Party

2.) Decade party (20′s,60′s, 70′s, 80′s, 90′s)

Hint: 80′s parties are irresistible to girls

3.) Heaven, Hell, Heaven and Hell

4.)Pirate theme

5.) ABC party- Anything But Clothes (garbage bags, duct tape, cardboard boxes etc.)

6.) School girl and Sexy Teachers Party

7.) G.I. Joe and Barbie Theme

8.) Superhero party

9.) Cowboys and Indians party

10.) Sports theme

11.) Wine or Champagne Tasting Party

-Everyone brings a bottle of wine. You cover each bottle by bag or paper and number them randomly. Everyone gets a sample of each bottle and rates them. Tally the scores and reveal the winners. The person who brought the best tasting wine wins a bottle to take home.

12.) Hawaiian Luau

13.) Mafia Party

14.) Lingerie/Playboy party

Now some of these themes may be a little too elementary for you, and some may be too high-brow, but it will give you a good launching point to help develop a successful party theme. Get the pulse of your female friends- they usually have a good sense of what the girls you know will get excited about going to.

Themes are important whether it's a house party or elegant Soiree

In fact get one of your hot female friends to help throw the party- both guys and girls tend to assume a party will be more fun when it’s thrown by a hot girl.

3.) Guest List

The guest list is vital. It will decide how successful the party will be. You want to aim for a 60/40 mix of women to men. Any more women and the party will be too catty. Any more men and it will look like a sword fight.

You should probably give guest list duties to someone else next time

Also be mindful of different social groups. A party is less fun when everyone knows each other. You want some guests to be strangers to each other at a party (this stimulates a fun chemistry), but you don’t want your hippy musician friends socializing with your boss from work. Be cognizant and recognize the social group of all your guests and try to invite like minded people.

Also be mindful that certain people won’t attend, so feel free to invite a few more people then you actually want attending. It’s always better to have a party that is too packed, then a party that is too empty.

4.) Invitations

Always start by developing a buzz via word of mouth. You want people to know that you are throwing a party soon. Use your hot friend to help accomplish this.

This can help develop an air of tension and anticipation for your party- especially if you have a reputation for throwing great parties (which you will after following our advice).

Once everything is set, and you have the date, time, and place decided, you can begin to invite people. You want to aim for at least 10 days before the party starts but never more then 3 weeks. This gives people enough time to prepare, girls enough time to go shopping for outfits, but it’s not so far ahead that people forget.

5.) Drinks

Probably the most vital thing at a party. Sure you can have fun without alcohol. But why start a fire with flint and sticks when they’ve invented the lighter?

As a cardinal rule: The drunker the people at your party get, the more fun they will have.

The key is to have plenty of alcohol. Have it chilled and ready to drink before the party starts. Make all your mixed drinks and punches beforehand so you can play a good host rather than bartender.

Read our article on building an effective home bar so you’re always ready for an impromptu get together.

An Inviting Party Bar

But for the simple essentials just take this grocery list:

1.) A Keg: The most basic of party essentials. It will service a large amount of people for very cheap.

As a general guideline you don’t want to buy more expensive beer kegs. More expensive brands achieve a higher level of flavor by adding more hops- which although make the beer more flavorful, are also very filling (remember the cardinal rule).

For kegs, you actually want to spring for a cheaper beer- Bud Light or Miller Lite. These brands use rice as a substitution to more hops to help make the beer less filling and easier to drink. In fact “Light” beers were originally invented not for the health conscious but rather the heavy drinker.

Personally, we recommend Miller Lite for your Keg purchases. It may have the stigma as being a “girly” beer, however it has less carbonation and it is easier to drink than Bud Light which girls will appreciate. And guys will drink anything anyway.

2.) A Punch: If there is one thing you need for a party, it’s a bowl of punch.

Most girls don’t like beer- at least they don’t like it enough to drink it heavily. Which is why you should always have an alternative for your guests. We recommend this recipe from DrinksRecipe for Jungle Juice.

Jungle Juice Recipe

1 L Everclear® alcohol
5.25 L (3 1.75L bottles) vodka
1 bottle peach schnapps
1 pint Bacardi® 151 rum
1 bottle 99 Apples® apple schnapps
10 L Sprite® soda
1 L Sunny Delight® orange juice
1 L triple sec
1.75 L bottle gin
1 bottle DeKuyper® Sour Apple Pucker schnapps
4 bottles Boone’s Farm® Strawberry Hill wine
8 L Hawaiian Punch®
2 containers orange juice concentrate
fruit (as much as desired)

Mix all the ingredients in a Coach’s Cooler or similar apparatus. Add the fruit and let it soak overnight. Use dry ice in a ziplock bag to help keep it cold and prevent the dry ice from melting into the recipe. Add regular ice before you serve, and add water to taste, but honestly, you can barely taste the alcohol as it is, making this a very dangerous party starter.

One cup has about 15% alcohol or the equivalent of 3 beers. After 2 or 3 cups, you can imagine how fun your party will be. The concoction is expensive to make- approximately $200 per batch depending on your location so feel free to remove some of the ingredients as you see fit- if the punch tastes like juice to begin with, removing any of the alcohol wont’t hurt.

Feel free to put some punch in a serving bowl and ladle added with fruit so your guests can serve themselves. The fruit will have a lot of alcohol naturally soaked into it, so biting into it will just provide your juice with an added punch (no pun intended).

3.) The Basics: Any party can have a keg and a bowl of punch. The best parties have a slew of alcohol to choose from displayed broadly as if saying- money is no object.

1.) A great sipping whisky (Macallan’s 18, Highland Park 21, Blue Label)

2.) A great mixing whiskey (Dewer’s 12, Crown Royal, Maker’s Mark, Black Label)

3.) A premium bottle of vodka (Belvedere or Grey Goose, and Ketel One)

4.) A great Reposado or Blanco Tequila (4 Copas, Gran Patron Silver, 1921- great for shots to help get the party started)

5.) A great selection of beers (Lagers, Dunkels, anything for the discerning beer drinker)

6.) Champagne (It’s a celebration)

7.) Amaretto (For making amaretto sours- only for girls that don’t like the taste of alcohol)

8.) Respectable selection of wines (Red, Whites, Chardonnay, Sovereign Blanc, Zinfandel, etc)

9.) Extra’s: Ice! (Get As many bags as you think you need, then get 5 more), Quality glasses, Large Heavy Duty Shaker (don’t put anything carbonated in it- rookie mistake), Towels

10.) Mixers: Soda’s, Sour mix, Juices, etc.

11.) Garnishes: Lemon and Lime Wedges, Olives, Toothpicks, and Precut lemon and lime twists (Nothing makes a drink fancier than a twist- for girls only)

12.) Something impressive to put it all in (Go dark wood, with darker leather)

4.) The unsung heroes: Cups and Ice

I have seen many great parties go downhill because people ran out of the simplest things. No one wants to wait while someone goes on a quick run to grab more cups or ice.

Even worse is running out of alcohol. It’s as if the music stops the second the last beer is cracked open. Trust us- it’s not pretty.

Also a true gentleman doesn’t throw a BYOB party. At least if you’re over 27.

5.) Food: No

Unless it’s a dinner party we would shy away from foods. People come to parties to have a good time, not get fed.

Food sobers you up, makes your breath smell, and is generally unattractive. There’s nothing sexy about typical party foods- chips, salsa, pizza etc.

If you insist, keep the food items clean- fruits, hors’dourves, steaks. Shy away from spaghetti, fish, or anything greasy.

And leave out a plate of dinner mints to help bring the party back to it’s original glory.

6.) Sense of Arrival: The most important decorations of your party

When people pull into your party and see the venue in the distance, whether it’s your house or a banquet hall you want them to get excited. You want to decorate the outside of the venue with a sense of importance.

This subtle distinction will make the difference between “Showing up” and “You’ve arrived.”

You want to create a “Sense of Arrival.”

You can do this in many ways.

A.) Balloon Arch: A balloon arch is great for indoor events. It is very labor intensive but if you have a couple girls helping you then you have a very classy and cheap way to build an entrance.

B.) Tiki Torches: This is our favorite way to create the impression of a truly great party. A few strategically placed Tiki Torches creating a pathway leading towards the entrance will transform a “get-together” to a “Soiree.”

Tiki Torches Always Create A "Sense of Arrival"

C.) Ice Sculpture: If you have the money, there is really no better way to wow your guests. Places strategically in the lobby or hallway of your party, a well made Ice Sculpture will shock your guests, make a perfect backdrop for pictures, and truly leave a lasting memory for all your guests.

Epic Ice Sculpture

7.) Decorations

Cut a check. Give it to the girls. Let them go crazy. Trust us.

8.) Music

If alcohol is the lighter, then music is the gasoline. Hiring a DJ should definitely be part of your budget. Don’t take recommendations, make sure you have personally seen the DJ spin.

You want a DJ that can easily transition from one song to the next, but more importantly a DJ that can effectively read a crowd and know exactly what song to play next. Anyone can play a pre-recorded podcast from a famous DJ, but it takes real skill to play the perfect song for that particular crowd.

A Solid Dj is Important

A good DJ will start out with mild lounge music as people are mingling and developing their buzz. He won’t waste good songs when no one is dancing.

He will know exactly when to start playing the hits to coax the crowd onto the dance floor. And he will know exactly what songs to play to keep them glued there.

Feel free to give the DJ a few songs that you would like to be played throughout the night, but if he’s a professional- mostly just let him do his job.

If a DJ isn’t in your budget, make sure to make a playlist of songs designed well in advance of the party.

Ideally you will make two playlists: one of mellow techno, jazz, and Sinatra as people are entering the party.

Then a second full of the greatest dance hits once the party gets popping.

A Good Dj will coax people to the dance floor

Having a preset playlist will ensure that you don’t have a crowd of “experts” crowding around the Ipod trying to decide what to play next.

9.) Dancing

If the drinks are cold, the crowd is right, and the music is good, dancing is inevitable.

There are a few things you can do to help grease the system. Make sure you have a dance floor that is in front of the DJ.

There’s something about a solid piece of concrete, wood, or tile in front of a DJ system that makes people want to dance. People just don’t like dancing on grass or uneven surfaces, for obvious reasons.

Dancing is essential for any great party

Make sure the area is well air-conditioned or cool. If the party is too hot, you invited too many people for your venue which is bad planning on your part.

Don’t throw an outdoor party if you live in a humid location. People will avoid dancing because they don’t want to sweat, which is bad planning on your part.

The most important thing you can do to ensure people start dancing is keep the lights low. Your whole party should have a level of ambiance similar to a candlelit dinner (without the candles, those are dangerous and will start a fire).

Everyone looks better in a dim light, and are more inclined to dance if they feel they can hide in the shadows and the crowd. So turn off a few lights, install a dimmer, or shade a few lightbulbs, and let the organic flow of your party develop.

Low light doesn't hide everyone's dancing, though

If people are still shying away from the dance floor you can always tell the DJ that if anyone requests to play a song, he makes it mandatory that they dance to it. No one wants to be the first person on the dance floor. You can wait for someone to get drunk (brave) enough to try, or you can force it yourself.

10.) Being a Good Host

Take care of all the other rules well before the party starts because you will need to devote your time and energy to rule number ten.

This is the most important rule of throwing a great party.

Greet every guest at the door, whether they are a stranger or close friend. Welcome them to your party. Grab a drink for them and tell them to help themselves for another round. Then cordially pass them off to someone they know so they can feel comfortable.

Never stay with one group for too long. Be sure to introduce guests to each other. You must be a director of fun at your party and ensure that everyone is enjoying their time.

If you feel the party needs a spark you can always play one of my favorite drinking games- Flip Cup

Flip cup requires a long table, a pitcher of beer or punch and several plastic cups.

Teams of three or more will line up on opposite sides of the table with cups, half full of drink.

Then during every round you start at one end of the table, chugging your cup and then placing the cup on the edge of the table and “flipping” it until the cup lands top side down. The next person doesn’t begin chugging until the person before them has finished successfully ”flipping” his cup.

First team to finish flipping all of the cups wins.

Flip cup to help get the party started

Before every round make sure that both teams start by clapping and making noise, and then the first two opponents tap cups and then chug. This creates a lot of commosion and makes the party look a lot more fun and lively than it actually is.

This works especially well for parties that are just beginning. It is a lot better to see a small group of people cheering and playing this game, then sitting around waiting for the party to start.

Execution

If you keep up with these rules, you should immediately develop a reputation for throwing magnificent parties. Don’t skimp on any of the details. It only takes one great party to be crowned the “Diddy” of your friends, but it only takes one bad party to completely shatter that repuation.

Hope you have a great time throwing your next party.

Wilder things have happened

Good Luck and Happy Hunting.

-Bravado Living

Also, make sure to keep an eye on your guests and don’t let anyone drive home intoxicated.

1.) Inspection

Common CIgar Sizes

There are many camps on how to light a cigar. Some say you can only use a cedar spill. Some say you can only use a butane lighter. Some say you need a cutter. Some say real cigar aficionado’s use thier teeth. Whatever the theory may be, they all begin the same way..

Take the cigar our of the cellophane wrapper.

Cigar smoking is a love affair. You don’t just throw it in your mouth and puff away. Appreciate the cigar for what it is –A hand-rolled masterpiece. Anyone that has ever seen a cigar being made knows the level of craftsmanship that goes into creating a cigar. The amount of care and detail, and the level of quality of the ingredients makes it amazing that you can buy them for $10 a stick.

First let’s discuss the different parts of the cigar.

The bottom of the cigar where you can see the open tobacco is called the foot.

Cigar Foot

This is the part you light.

The other rounded end is called the cap or head.

Head, Shoulder and Cap of a Ciar

It is sealed so you will need to cut it open in order to properly draw in smoke. The rest of the cigar is composed of the filler, the tobacco inside of the cigar. This is all held together by the wrapper, which is the outside leaf that holds the filler together.

The glue used to hold this beauty together is vegetable based and non-toxic. Some companies even use sap to give a hint of molasses to their cigars.

So inspect the cigar. Gently squeeze it and feel for lumps. Notice if the outside leaf has any veins. Finally smell the tobacco. A properly humidified cigar will have a damp tobacco smell.

A cigar that has been improperly stored or dried out will feel dry in the hand, may crunch when squeezed lightly, have rips and breaks in the wrapper, and smell slightly stale, like the clothes of a smoker.

Avoid Bad Cigars

If you are purchasing the cigar for yourself, go with a “mild” flavored cigar. Don’t be afraid to ask for a recommendation from the store owner, they love talking about their passion. Go for a smaller sized cigar to acclimate your taste buds. Typically the lighter in color the wrapper, the less intense the flavor. A “Maduro” or dark colored cigar may be too strong for some, but that’s what I started smoking with, so it can be done.

2.) Cut the Cigar

Look closely at the head of the cigar and you will see the cap.

Cigar Cap

The cap is a slightly different color than the rest of the cigar and looks similar to a Yakima on the top of the cigar. This is what you will cut in order to smoke a cigar.

The Perfect Cut

You must be careful however.

The cap is crucial and must remain intact for fear of the cigar unraveling. The most common mistake cigar smokers make is cutting off too much of the cap, or even worse, actually cutting into the cigar wrapper.

Way too much

The hole needed to smoke a cigar is a lot smaller then you think, about the size of a pencil eraser. So when cutting the cigar make sure to only cut off only a small amount. You can always make a hole bigger, but you can never undue the damage caused by cutting off to much.

Ok so now that you understand what needs to be done we will explain the tools:

Cigar Punch: The easiest way to cut a cigar is with a cigar punch. It is merely a round blade that will cleanly “punch” a hole through the cap. If you want a larger hole you can simply punch the cigar several times until the hole is large enough.

Cigar Punch

Cigar Guillotine: The cigar guillitoine is a double edged cutter that will cleanly cut the cigar from both ends.

Cigar Guillotine

The best way to cut with the guillotine is to gently rest the blades on the cigar so you can see where it will cut and then snip quickly and cleanly. This is our personal favorite cutter as it gives you the most freedom as the the size of the hole. We recommend the Xikar Cuttar as it is self sharpening,

Table Top V-Cutter: Usually seen in cigar shops, this is another fool-proof method of cutting a cutter.

V Cut Cigar Cutter

You merely insert the cigar and pull down on the lever and the cutter will cleanly shave a V-shaped opening at the head of the cigar.

V Cut CIgar

Personally, I feel the draw is too tight with this cutter and my cigar ends up being too hard to smoke, but it’s definitely worth a try.

Cigar Scissors: Self-Explanatory. Should work similarly to the guillotine cutter, but I’ve had terrible results and ruined many great cigars.

Cigar Scissors

They look great but aren’t gentle enough

Your Teeth: Only use as a last resort. Even a knife, pen, or key would be better suited to punch a hole in a cigar. But if you must, then nibble cleanly a small hole in the cap being careful not to accidentally pull the cap completely off.

Pull the tobacco from your lip with your fingers. Never Spit. It’s not effective. You will merely look like a bug landed on your lip and will ended up using your fingers anyway.

3.) Test the draw

Once the cigar is cut, puff on the cigar and see if the draw is too your liking. You should have to use a little pressure to get air flowing into your mouth.

If the cigar draws too open and allows too much air, the cigar will burn hot, quickly, and will mask the real flavor of the leaf. You cut off too much.

If the cigar draws too tight and is very difficult to puff, the cigar will burn cold and be frustratingly difficult to keep lit. Open the cut slightly.

If the cigar still draws tight, it might have a knot. Gentle squeeze the cigar and feel for any lumps, if the lump is near the foot of the cigar, consider cutting the section off and smoking the rest. If cutting is not an option, then use a small wire (paperclip) and very gently poke the knot to loosen the area. Be careful to not rip the wrapper or ruin the rest of the cigar. Usually this will help alleviate the problem, and save the stubborn cigar.

4.) Lighting the Cigar

First, remove any wrappers or labels located near the foot of the cigar if they have one.

Never use a candle, a liquid fueled lighter, or any other questionable source of flame. They will all ruin the taste of the cigar.

There are only three ways to light a cigar. Using a match, a cedar spill, or butane lighter.

Match: Light the match and let the match burn down slightly. The initial spark from a match comes from the sulphur and while it does make a larger flame, will impart a sour taste in your cigar. It will take several matches to properly light the cigar and get an even burn.

Although improper etiquette, feel free to puff the cigar under the flame to help jump the flame onto the tobacco. This will help get the cigar lit quickly and will use less matches.

Lighting a cigar with a match

If the number of matches is of no concern, then jump down to the butane lighter technique and use the same theory.

Cedar Spill: The most romantic of cigar lighting techniques. Commonly found in premium cigar shops, cedar strips or “spills” are strips of cedar, that can be used to create an aromatic even burning light. They can be found as dividers of cigar boxes or purchased separately.

Cedar Spills

Regardless of acquisition, they require the same technique as butane lighters, so just continue reading below.

Butane Lighters: The easiest and preferred method of lighting a cigar, butane lighters provide the most control and most even burning flame. You are looking for a lighter with a strong jet blue flame.

Cigar Torch

Some companies even sell lighters with two, three, or even four flames, but we feel that ruins the romance and allure of lighting a cigar. So here’s the proper gentlemanly way to do it:

Torch the foot: No we’re not torturing anyone here. We merely mean to light the foot of the cigar. Proper technique requires you to hold the cigar at a 45 degree angle above the flame and allow the cigar to flirt with the heat of the lighter- never directly placing the cigar in the flame (which will char the tobacco and impart a poor flavor).

Lighting a cigar

This requires time and patience, which is a necessity for cigar smoking. A small cigar will require at least half an hour of your time, and a larger cigar may take over an hour to fully enjoy. Lighting a cigar is part of the experience so don’t rush it.

Rolling: Continue to roll the cigar in the heat until you get an even burn emanating from the foot of the cigar. Feel free to blow on the cigar to help increase the heat on a particular section to ensure an even burn.

Ensuring an evenly lit cigar

Continue this process until you are satisfied that the cigar is properly lit.

Avoid puffing on the cigar while it is being lit, this will cause the flame to jump charring the tobacco and inhaling noxious fumes which alter the taste of the tobacco.

No

Puffing: Instead, after the cigar is lit, blow gently to remove any char/fumes that may impart a sour taste, inspect the burn, and then get ready to enjoy the cigar.

5.) Holding the cigar: You don’t hold a cigar like a cigarette. You hold it between your thumb and forefinger, letting it rest gently on the edge of your middle finger if you please.

Holding a Cigar, Notice the even burn

Keep the cigar in your hand and at your hip. Let it rest on an ashtray only if you are leaving the area.

Be mindful or wind direction from blowing on your cigar which will affect the even burn, and where the smoke is blowing- not everyone loves the smell of tobacco, and a true gentlemen never makes anyone feel uncomfortable, even unintentionally.

6.) Actually smoking the cigar: Ok enough foreplay. How to actually smoke a cigar.

Cigar smoke is very harsh and will cause you to cough so the key is to not inhale.

Easier said than done.

The trick, for those not used to breathing in without inhaling, is to take a deep breath, and the puff on the cigar.This will make it impossible for you to accidentally inhale the tobacco smoke. Once the cigar smoke is in your mouth, let it linger for a while,  and then breathe it out. Rinse. And  Repeat.

Congratulations, this may be your first cigar but everyone at the table thinks you’re a cigar aficionado.

Constantly check the cigar to ensure an even burn is maintained. Feel free to blow on the foot of the cigar if you feel a section is not keeping up, or in extreme cases you may use your lighter to speed up the process.

Cigar smoking does create a large amount of saliva which some find annoying. So if for the company is appropriate, and you are outdoors and near grass, feel free to spit. Do this cleanly and sparingly. Amongst proper guests, and indoors, suck it up and swallow.

7.)Remove the band: After a few puffs, the heat from the cigar will melt the glue on the wrapper, please remove it now. Leaving a wrapper on a cigar is controversial, and there are two camps of theory. Those in Europe and the Middle East consider it a sign of arrogance and showmanship, those in North and South America see it as optional.

Personally, it is better to err on the side of conservatism and simply remove the cigar label. Sure someone might think your Ed Hardy shirt is cool, but chances are people will think you’re a douche. Leaving a label on is for amateurs,

8.) Tasting the cigar:Typically, the first few times you smoke a cigar, you won’t be able to taste anything or truly appreciate the cigar. Your taste buds will simply tingle as they acclimate to the smoke. Similar to drinking your first beer, or sipping your first glass of wine. It may take several sticks to get used to the smoke and develop a taste for the cigar.

Once you get used to smoking a cigar, after several puffs, as the ash develops, and the cigar begins to burn cooler you will have a better sense of the taste of the cigar- usually about halfway down the cigar all the way to just below of the shoulder of the cigar (the sweet spot). Smoking will cause the flavor to concentrate in the bottom half of the cigar so while the first half of the cigar may taste empty and light, the bottom half will taste rich.

Let the smoke swirl in your mouth, cool down, and allow your tongue to bathe in the flavors. Note the hints of leather, chocolate, coffee, honey, and wood in your tobacco.

Also note the body of the smoke. A mild cigar will have the body of skim milk, while a full bodied cigar will feel like heavy cream in your mouth.

Hint: Write down your own personal review on the back of the wrapper and save them for later. You can help use this system to determine what cigars to buy next by knowing what you like, and what you don’t like. How will you ever know that you like Amberbock if you keep buying Guiness?

9.) Ashing the Cigar: Don’t worry about ashing a cigar. The long ash of a cigar is an indication of a well made stick. It also helps to cool down the burn of the cigar. This lets a cooler smoke enter your mouth and allows for a better tasting experience. Don’t worry about the ash falling on your clothes, it wipes clean (I know from experience).

The only time I would recommend ashing a cigar is if the cigar has gone out, or is about to go out. If that’s the case then follow these steps.

Relighting a Cigar

Ashing a cigar is easy. You merely gently tap it against the ashtray until the ash falls off. The problem is the char. If you relight the char it will be acidic and bitter. Feel free to blow on the cigar to help dislodge the ash or tap it lightly to cause to fall out, then simply follow the same technique you used before to initially light the cigar. You can also cut the cigar and begin a new.

Regardless it may take a while for the cigar to stabilize and return to it’s original flavor. Don’t let that discourage you, relighting a cigar is very common and is a skill that needs to be mastered if you ever intend on making cigar smoking a part of your lifestyle.

10.) Extinguishing the Cigar

When the flame gets too close for comfort, time is up, or you wish to save the rest of the cigar for later, there comes a time to extinguish the cigar.

The proper way is to let it die gently in an ash tray.

Do not try and press the flame out. This will cause the cigar to smoke heavily and leave an awful acrid smell that will not easily be removed. Cigar smoke usually dissipates within a few hours indoors, but extingusing a cigar by force in this manner and you will have a much harder time.

Also never leave a cold cigar for too long indoors as the same effect will occur.

Once the cigar has died, ensure the flame is extinguished by touching the foot gently. If it is too warm to touch, it is too warm to discard and could cause a fire hazard. Once properly cooled, feel free to discard, or place back into the cellophane wrapper and save it for later.

With these rules you should be well on your way to enjoying one of life’s simplest treasures. Churchill, Hemmingway, and all the Cubans on Calle Ocho can’t be wrong. Cigar smoking isn’t just a hobby, it’s a way of life.

Suits? Arguable. In the 90′s it was all about 3-Button Suits. In the Early 2000′s vested 3-piece suits became all the rage. Now conjuring your best “Mad Men” impression 2-button suits are the only thing worth wearing.

Black Oxford Shoe? Good choice. But you can’t deny the popularity of laceless slip-ons, and the dismal ubiquity of square toed rubber bottom atrocities that plagued every middle-management type throughout the 90′s.

The Pea Coat has remained unchanged. Sure you have options. You can go single breasted, double breasted, short, long, camel, black, regardless of your choice we can guarantee you one thing– if you buy one, you will be able to wear it. Every. Single. Year. Regardless of the current fashion trend.

Which is why we recommend you don’t just buy one, we at THS recommend you invest in one.

Here are a few suggestions when looking for one.

1.) Fit is Everything

You want to wear a coat. You don’t want a coat to wear you. Get one in the same size as your suit jacket, not a size bigger. Take it to a tailor if you need to. If the shoulders of the jacket are hanging off your bony frame, and the arms look like you’re wearing a snuggie– then it looks like someone brought their kid to work day rather than commanding the respect you deserve.

Camel Cashmere Coat by Calvin Klein $1,995

If you want to be daddy; you can’t  look like you’re borrowing daddy’s clothes.

In terms of length you can go shorter, but the just shorter than knee length version is as classic as it gets.

2.) Know your colors

Black-Classic. The original. Resists stains the best, and will never fail you. Looks great with almost every color suit you own except that sharp chocolate brown one you save for casual friday.

Burberry Top Coat $2,300

Blue-Not just any blue. Navy Blue. This one is sharp. Get a cashmere blend so it has a sheen to it. Looks better on than a black topcoat with almost every color suit you own. Plus, it won’t clash when you decide to wear brown leathers instead of black- in fact it will enhance the outfit. If you buy just one color. This is it.

Navy Cashmere Coat by Prada $4,155

Grey-A nice alternative on days where you want your dark suit to really stand out.

Top Coat by Z. Zegna $1,095

Camel- The Ferrari of top coats. This color will make you stand out- and that’s what it’s designed to do. In an elevator of black, blue, and grey, the camel coat will get you noticed. Just take off the shades. You’re not that cool.

Ralph Lauren Purple Label Coat $4,995

Also FYI: Camel-Haired coats are actually camel hair while Camel-Colored can be made from any fabric.

3.) Know your fit

Single Breasted- Going with a dark colored, single-breasted top coat and you will never go wrong. It’s also the most likely to fit flatteringly.

Fred Perry Top Coat $480

Double Breasted- Get this cut slim. It’s vital. With double the breast, you also get double the coat. Get a modern fit that compliments your figure, not disfigures it. The double-breasted also hails from days in the military, giving it a much more aggressive look. In the cutthroat environment of business-we’re not so sure that’s a bad thing.

Black Wool Coat by Burberry $2,250

Tip: Get your coat sprayed with suede protector. Not only will it become water repellent but will resist that unavoidable coffee spill in the elevator the first day you wear it.

With this new found knowledge you should be ready to upgrade your wardrobe and get the only piece of clothing that may outlast you.

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Tickets are nasty. Not only are you paying a fine, but they give you points which increase your insurance. But if you drive like a red-blooded man, chances are you’re gonna get one. So here’s what you do according to our cop.

If you don't have tits, then here's what you do..

1.) Turn off the car, turn on the interior lights, lower windows (back ones too if you have tints), and then keep your hands on the steering wheel

Cops have a stressful job. They don’t only deal with nice people like you and I, but the majority of their calls are to crazies. Help remove the tension from the situation by showing that you are not going to run, are a rational human being, and understand the severity of the circumstances.

2.) Submit

Every day cops deal with people that argue, fight, and question their authority. Don’t be that guy.

You ever see a submissive dog roll on it’s back to show it’s belly? Be that dog.

Swallow your pride and things will go much smoother for you. So be polite, do exactly what the officer says, and don’t plead your case until the officer gives you an opportunity to.

3.) Charm the Officer

When it boils down to it. Cops are human beings. They want the same things everyone else does. To be appreciated, respected and sympathized with. You show them all three, and you might just get a warning.

But we at The Haute Spot don’t work on “might,” we like sure things. So like we always do- we have given you a script on exactly what to say:

Officer: Do you know why I pulled you over today?

You: (Say this quickly, and don’t let the officer interrupt you until you finish) Yes I do officer, and I completely apologize. If you want to give me a ticket I completely understand, because you are just doing your job, and guys like you keep the bad guys off the street.

Someones heart just melted. Stonewall Jackson has become Little Bo Peep. You have just given the officer everything he could’ve asked for: appreciation, respect, and sympathy. Nine times out of ten, the officer will go back to his car check for warrants. If you’ve got a clean record, he will most likely let you get off with a warning.  Congratulations. No need to thank us.

Now what happens if he still gives you a ticket…

Chances are if he goes to his car before you can plead your case, he’s coming back with the ticket. So don’t let him leave without asking to speak to him. But sometimes, it’s just out of your control. While there’s technically no “quota,” they still get pressure to write a certain amount of tickets. Or the officer may just be having a bad day.

Regardless, you need to protect yourself.

Notice our wording. We never actually admitted to anything. We just admitted to doing something wrong, and apologized.

This is key because admission makes it very difficult to fight the ticket in court. If he hands you a ticket for speeding, act shocked.

YOU: Speeding? I thought this was for my broken taillight (assuming you DON’T have a broken taillight)

Then you can just go on following the advice from our friends at lifehacker

Just a few more things:

1.) Make your case, but continue to be nice. You want the officer to forget you so he’s less likely to show in court- which is an automatic dismissal of the case for you.

2.) Don’t hire a traffic lawyer. Show up yourself. Traffic lawyers are sweat shops. They have so many cases they rarely do anything more then file paperwork for you, and hardly get anything done that you can’t do yourself.

Plus it gives the impression that you don’t care about the ticket, and are probably guilty. Showing up yourself- in a suit- shows personal attention and a perceived innocence, because you care so much about the ticket.

3.) Lastly, don’t forget the dates. The pre-trial and the actual trial. I know it seems basic, but it’s happened before. Mark you calendar and show up on time. If you don’t show up, you’re automatically guilty, so you have to pay the fine and all the points and insurance increases that come with it.

Good Luck and Happy Hunting

Black Leather with Silver Accents

Your bread and butter

Black leather with silver accents. The quintessential leather/metal combo. Chances are you already have this look covered. This collection will cover everything from conservative days at the office, to weddings, to anchoring your jeans and blazer combo. Extremely versatile and nearly foolproof.

The black and silver collection may be nearly foolproof, but somehow some guys still manage to screw it up. The one mistake, you can make, in this particular collection, is not recognizing the level of formality a particular piece has, and failing to stick to the same family. This goes beyond wearing a silver banded watch with your tuxedo (always wear a leather banded watch), but wearing rubber soled shoes with a suit, an athletic watch with your blazer, or a jean belt with your slacks. These are all mistakes-that while not incredibly important, prevent your outfit from becoming truly world class.

Porsche Design Cufflinks $540: Cufflinks exude power and class. Even if you don’t have the corner office yet doesn’t mean you can’t dress like you do.

Cole Haan Attache $775: Keep your dad’s briefcase at home. Your attache should be slim, and only carry the essentials.

Piaget Watch $12,000: Cufflinks and a Brietling are too much. Keep your watch subtle and elegant.

Salvatorre Ferragamo Shoes $550: If you don’t have a pair of Italian leather shoes, go buy a pair now. We mean it.

Persol Sunglasses $360: No need for a gaudy brand slapped on the side, keep it classic.

Calvin Klein Belt $325: High quality leather with a simple buckle that will never go out of fashion

Church’s Breast Pocket Wallet $320: Keep the bulge out of your pants, and go with this much more formal breast pocket wallet

Black Rubber with Silver Accents: Casual Edition

For Jeans and Blazer Days

If you’re lucky enough to work in a place that allows jeans, then tone your formality down a notch. Swap leather for rubber. This look implies that no one can tell you how to dress, because chances are– you’re the boss. That you park an Alfa Romeo, and not that sedan you actually drive. Subdued, but elegant, this collection is as rugged as it is refined.

Banana Republic Shoes $158: Not only are rubber soled shoes more comfortable, they look more casual too.

Cartier Santos Watch $5,900: The ultimate sport watch. The rubber strap completes the theme of this look.

Fabien Baron Sunglasses $375: Jeans? and Aviators? Who is this guy?

Louis Vuitton Messenger Bag $1500: Swap the briefcase for the shoulder bag and don’t look back

Dior Key Ring $165: Something has to hold your car keys right?

Church’s Belt $165: A little thicker of a belt to prevent your jeans from rolling down

Ermenigildo Zegna Case $275: Yeah. Just because.

Gold with Brown Leather

For the classiest of gentlemen

When we were younger, and obviously much more naive, we avoided gold like the plague. Considering it too gaudy, we now recognize it’s timeless appeal and it’s synonymous nature with class. Other then black leather with silver accents, no other look demands more respect. Some may even argue that this collection demands even more respect (us).

It is a slightly more difficult collection to complete as your hues of leather may vary, gold is a little more expensive than silver, and simply the pieces are harder to come by- but we believe that once complete, no collection looks better with a navy suit (the staple of a man’s wardrobe).

Prada Briefcase $1,900: Make sure that it cuts slim, and only holds your essentials. You want to make it seem like you bring some work home, not bring work to home.

Hermes Belt $600: Cut slim for your flat front pants, and anchored solid with that beautiful buckle.

Prada Aviators $270: Wire rimmed and horn accented. These puppies make anyone look like a movie star.

Constantin Durmont Skeleton Watch $3,700: You don’t own this watch. You merely hold onto it for the next generation.

Ferragamo Shoes $550: The high vamp on this shoe makes it look like a demi-boot. The gold accent doesn’t hurt either.

Mont Blanc Cufflinks $190: For the real power players in your office.

Silver with Chocolate Brown Leather

For the man on the go

If you work on the road, or travel often, this collection is calling your name. The ultimate paradox, classic yet casual- brown leather with silver accents. It remembers that this country wasn’t built by men wearing suits, and rebelliously call out to this time past. Unpretentious. Unassuming. This look shows that if you are waiting for something to turn up, you should start with your shirt sleeves.

Blinde Sunglasses $425: Wire frames match the on-the-go mentality of this collection

Rolex Watch $4,400: The tie-free look should come with an equally casual looking watch

Calvin Klein Attache $650: Matches your shoes chocolate brown and the pebbled leather borrows from the cowboy that inspired this look

Tag Heuer Cell Phone $4,565: Tag over values it’s brand. Don’t buy this overly expensive piece of equipment- we just couldn’t photoshop this out of the picture.

Want Les Credit Card Holder $115: Cash in your breast pocket, cards in your back.

Gucci Shoes $595: Wear them in but keep them shined. Wrinkles look good.

Tod’s Billfold $245: Once again, yeah. Just because.

Camel Leather with Silver Accents

European Elegance

If chocolate brown leather with silver accents is unpretentious, then camel leather says “Money is no object.” Wear this collection wisely because very few men have a single piece in camel leather, let alone a whole matching outfit- and once you do, you will be pegged as a fashion forward man forever. Worn with a charcoal, navy, or shark skin suit, this look exudes the utmost in modern luxury.

John Varvatos Shoes $395: It always starts with the shoes

Delvaux Folio $1,756: The attache that will bring this look together, once again cut as slim as your suit.

Goyard at Barney’s Wallet $515: Pulling out a camel colored wallet might be overkill. That’s why you’re gonna do it.

Gucci Watch $1.895: If your going for a look that says money is no object then an alligator banded watch is only appropriate

Belt, $550, by J.M. Weston. Sunglasses, $350, by Cutler and Gross. Card Case, $190, by Valextra at Barneys New York, Paul Stuart Clip $78

Feel free to mix and match to your heart’s desire. Build your collection slowly, and you will be ready to go for any occasion.

Inspired by Cold Steel president Lynn Thompson’s close association with a Dr. Maung Gyi, who was chief instructor for the American Bando Association. Bando is a Burmese martial art and it’s from this standpoint that Thompson was able to really harness the potential of this singular blade. The Kukri is pretty much a cross between an axe and a knife, with all the chopping and stabbing power that implies. It’s still used on a daily basis in South Asia for a whole plethora of tasks, from building furrows, cutting meat and vegetables, cutting down trees, to plain old self defense from wild animals and hostile humans.

Currently employed by the U.S. Navy Seals, this particular kukri retains all that versatility, from chop and stab to slash and smash. It’s multipurpose magic stems from some minor tweaks Cold Steel have added. The point is longer and narrower and has a distal tapering to the spine, giving it more piercing power. Cold Steel boasts that the San Mai is the heaviest kukri on the market. The San Mai apparently makes an efficient bludgeon using the back of the blade .The blade is almost an inch wider near the tip than at the handle. This pushes the balance of the blade forward, the same concept behind a leather sap, so you can land a substantial blow with minimal effort. A blow from this baby can break bones or even become fatal if you land one on your assailants skull. This is a great all-purpose knife for any outdoor activity and if you’re an avid hunter this should definitely become part of your arsenal. I love knives and would add this to my collection in a heart beat.

Watch the Gurkha Kukri in action as it cuts through meat, bone, metal, concrete, and even a coin like butter. Even more impressive is the lack of damage to the blade. I haven’t seen cutting power like this in swords twice the size of this powerful knife.

BUY IT! San Mai Gurkha Kukri $165.99